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Becoming
a Bibby

A long-term partner role has opened in the life of Ryan Bibby. It's full-time and permanent — the kind of position you retire from, together. The candidate's profile is below. Applications are reviewed on a rolling basis.

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Ryan Bibby (goes by Bibby)

Long-Term Partner Candidate · Husband (Aspiring)

  • Location: Marietta, GA
  • Age: 25
  • Height: 5'7"
  • Ham radio callsign: KN4RQL
  • Faith: Catholic
  • Available immediately
Ryan Bibby

Objective

To secure a mutually fulfilling, lifelong partnership with a kind, curious, slightly-too-competitive-at-board-games individual who shares the faith. Seeking growth opportunities, shared takeout, and a co-signer on increasingly elaborate weekend road trips. Open to relocation of the heart. Not open to relocation of the antennas.

Executive Summary

Reliable, low-drama candidate with seven years of independent adult life, a verified history of remembering birthdays, and at least two functioning love languages. Strengths include showing up on time, genuine interest in your day, and strong opinions about road-trip snacks. Comfortable working solo but built for a committed two-person team. Currently exceeding every personal KPI except "found a partner" — hence this listing.

Station Licence (Schedule A · amateur radio)

Calling CQ · still calling

QSL CardConfirming contact

KN4RQL

Marietta, Georgia · kn4rql.radio

Service
FCC Amateur Radio, licensed
Operating
Listening rather more than transmitting
Antenna
Has been fixed in the rain. Twice.
Static
Tolerated indefinitely
Contacts
More than he can name. All strangers.
QSL
Always answered. Every time.

A QSL card is what one operator posts to another to confirm that contact was made — proof that on a particular evening, on a particular frequency, two strangers found each other and bothered to say so. The hobby is, underneath it, the practice of calling out on the chance that somebody is listening, and then listening properly when they answer. He has got quite good at it at three hundred miles. He would like to manage it once at arm's length, and then stop.

Infrastructure (Schedule B · disclosure)

There is a server in the house. It is called GLaDOS. Nobody is paying for any of this, and nobody has ever been asked to.

The gateway
Serves a different front page depending on who's asking
Radio station
Operational
File node
Public, and deliberately so
Media
For people who have never once said thank you
This listing
Operational, obviously
Backups
Yes. Tested, which is the part people skip.
Uptime
Measured in months
On call
Him. Always him.

None of this is a job and none of it pays. It runs because a handful of people quietly depend on it, and because he would much rather they never had to notice it at all. The metaphor is not subtle and it is not accidental: the whole appeal of the thing is being reliable for somebody in a way they never have to think about.

On the Record (Schedule C · the ones he'll defend)

Taste isn't a personality and a list of it isn't a profile. What follows is the short version — the handful he will actually argue about, which is a different thing entirely.

Favourite film
Dead Poets Society. He has the argument ready.
Favourite game
Portal 2 — and the server in Schedule B is named after it
Favourite Avenger
Doctor Strange. Correctly.
Comfort shelf
Ghibli, Middle-earth, Narnia, Fantastic Mr Fox
Comic sci-fi
Hitchhiker's and Doctor Who, permanently in rotation
Sunday afternoon
Mel Brooks, at volume
Sight unseen
Anything A24 puts out
On the nightstand
How to Win Friends, and How to Hug a Porcupine. Both earnest. Both working.
People over
Jackbox. Always Jackbox.

The first anime he ever watched isn't on the list — the title doesn't survive being said out loud to anyone who hasn't seen it. It stays off the record on those grounds alone, but it is the reason he will call you darling one day without noticing he's done it.

Core Competencies

Emotional availability94%
Texting back in a timely manner88%
Cooking (intermediate, expanding)71%
Remembering where I put my keys42%
Conflict resolution (uses words)90%
Parallel parking100%

Additional skills: long road trips, boating, disappearing into a good book, holding a radio contact with a stranger three time zones away, and pretending I haven't seen the show you want to watch together.

Professional Experience

Stated once and then left alone: this would be a first role. What follows is everything that prepared me for it anyway.

Independent Adult · Real Life, Inc.

2019 – Present
  • Seven years self-sufficient: bills paid, fridge stocked, life generally upright.
  • Filed taxes on time every single year. No notes from the IRS. None.
  • Owns a functioning toolbox and knows where the stud finder is.
  • Cleans the apartment before guests arrive, not during.

Amateur Radio Operator · KN4RQL

Licensed · Active
  • Chose a hobby that is, at its core, listening carefully and replying clearly.
  • Comfortable starting a conversation with a complete stranger and keeping it going.
  • Patient under static. Will, in fact, fix the antenna in the rain.

Homelab Sysadmin · Self-Hosted (Linux)

Always – On
  • Maintains 100% uptime on things people quietly depend on.
  • Debugs calmly at 1 a.m. without blaming the nearest person.
  • Yes — will absolutely fix your Wi-Fi, and not be smug about it.

Education & Certifications

  • Enrolled since 2020 — degree in progress. Took a job at the university along the way and have been pursuing the degree on a flexible, scenic timeline ever since. Minor in overthinking.
  • Licensed: FCC Amateur Radio operator (KN4RQL).
  • Practicing: Roman Catholic — Sunday Mass is a fixed point; road trips get routed past a parish.
  • Published: Poetry and short fiction, under a pen name he isn't sharing. You'll have to take his word for it, which is roughly how he prefers most things.
  • Certified: Will pull over and ask for directions (eventually).
  • Certified: Forklift operator. This has never once been relevant and he brings it up constantly.
  • Self-taught: Can fold a fitted sheet. Has receipts.

Candidate Requirements (what we're looking for in you)

Required

  • Shares the Catholic faith (this one's genuine, not a bit)
  • Kindness, the boring everyday kind
  • A sense of humour that survives a long car ride
  • Communicates instead of disappearing
  • Wants a family, and wants to talk about what that looks like

Preferred

  • Up for road trips, boating, and the open water
  • Happier barefoot
  • Naps without guilt
  • Drinks the filtered water
  • Spells well, and quietly notices when others don't
  • Suspicious of anything that wants an account before it will do anything
  • Will argue about the ending of a film she loves
  • Will debate "is a hot dog a sandwich" with conviction
  • Tolerant of the occasional radio or Linux tangent

Dealbreakers

  • "I'm not really a texter"
  • Rude to waitstaff
  • Doesn't return the shopping cart
  • Still texting an ex "for closure"

Compensation & Benefits

This role offers a competitive total rewards package, vested immediately:

Beverage Service

Coffee or tea delivered to your side of the bed. Recurring. Non-negotiable.

Cold-Weather Plan

Designated hand-warmer and reliable little-spoon/big-spoon flexibility.

Entertainment Stipend

Unlimited movie nights. Will watch your show. Will not narrate predictions.

Maintenance Coverage

On-call for assembling furniture, killing spiders, and reaching high shelves.

Travel Perks

Itineraries planned, snacks packed, window seat surrendered upon request.

24/7 Support

Answers the phone. Calls back. Remembers what you were worried about.

Today's sample
I gave away my dead batteries today. Free of charge.

Attachments (submitted unprompted)

Photographs have been enclosed. Nobody requested photographs. They are offered in support of the claims made above, shuffled on every visit so that nobody is spared any of them, and the last one stays last over the strenuous objection of everybody consulted.

Exhibit ABow tie, hand-tied, on a porch, for no reason that was ever given.
Exhibit BThe formal one. The boutonnière was not his; the occasion was somebody else's.
Exhibit CRight-hand side, in church, in the grey suit. The other two were told to look natural and very nearly managed it.
Exhibit DTulip behind the ear, one eye shut. The tulip was somebody else's idea. The wink was entirely his.
Exhibit EChicago. He drove. That is the relevant detail.
Exhibit FOn campus, in the shirt. He works there. The degree is, separately, still in progress.
Exhibit GAt work, in the hat, in front of the monitors. The natural habitat.
Exhibit HGuitar, sunglasses, tulip in the teeth, kitchen, night. No explanation was offered and none has since become available.
Exhibit ISloppy joe. Thumbs up. Submitted deliberately, and against advice.

Frequently Asked Questions

Is this a joke?

Yes. Also no. It's a joke that would be delighted to be taken seriously by the right person.

What does "becoming a Bibby" entail?

Optional surname adoption, a standing invitation to Mass, co-ownership of an alarming number of radios, and an elite collection of dad jokes — effective long before any actual dad-hood.

What's the catch?

I leave cabinet doors open. I will talk to you about Linux servers unprompted. That's roughly the extent of it.

Are you actually on the dating apps?

I built a website instead. Make of that what you will.

What if I'm not looking for anything serious?

Respect. We're hiring for a different role. Best of luck out there.

References

Glowing references available upon request — including my mother, a few close friends, and at least two people legally unrelated to me. They have been briefed and are, frankly, eager.

Statement of Intent

For all the corporate scaffolding above: what I'm actually after is somebody I can be unguarded around — who takes that as a gift rather than a weight, who likes being loved attentively and out loud, who lets me get the car door, and who doesn't mind being asked to text when she gets home. Someone who shares the faith, and who'd think no less of me on a bad day. That's the whole of it. The rest of the page is the joke it appears to be.

It is early where this is written. The coffee is on and the radios are warming up.

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